4 Things You Must Never Do When Going Through A Divorce

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In any relationship, divorce should always be the final option. When possible, you should look to work at your marriage, not only for your sake but also for the sake of your children. Of course, sometimes, despite your best efforts, divorce is inevitable, especially when the marriage is broken beyond repair. Should this be the case, there are things you should and shouldn’t do when moving forward. For the purposes of this article, here are the things you should never do.

#1: Don’t neglect your health

It’s rare that divorce is easy on a person’s health, as it can bring about feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. It’s important then to take care of your emotional and physical needs during this time, such as speaking to a doctor or a counselor, spending time with friends, and finding ways to bring more positivity into your life during this dark time. Time does heal, and life will go on, but it will happen a lot faster if you care for yourself in the process.

#2: Don’t neglect the needs of your child

While divorce is difficult for you, you must never forget what your child is going through. Many children go through feelings of guilt when mommy and daddy split up, as well as anger, sadness, and anxiety. As a parent, you need to reassure your child that he/she isn’t to blame. When possible, you need to figure out joint custody, working out both mother’s rights and father’s rights with a family attorney, so your child still has time with both of you within their young lives. And you should take time to listen and to talk to your child, as well as allowing them the privilege of a family therapist to further talk through their feelings and emotions.

#3: Don’t do something you will later regret

Emotions will be running high, and if you’re not careful, you could do something that you will later regret. You could jeopardize both your health and your custody rights by falling into bad habits, such as falling prey to alcohol when dealing with your feelings. You could cause loyalty conflict within your child if you continually bad mouth the other person. And you might post something negative about your partner on social media, and that could later be used against you in court. You don’t want to hurt yourself or your child. You don’t want to do something that could affect your custody or visitation rights. So, while it isn’t easy, be mindful of all that you do and say.

#4: Don’t listen to divorce advice from friends and family

When it comes to advice about the divorce, the only person you need to get advice from is your attorney. They will talk to you about custody rights, sharing joint assets, court orders, etc. Don’t listen to the advice of anybody else professing to know what it is they are talking about, such as family members and friends who are trying to be protective of you. Sure, they can support you, offer you a shoulder to cry on, and help you with your personal life, but if they try and offer you advice based on what they have experienced themselves or seen on the television, politely say ‘no.’ Each divorce case is unique, and should you act upon bad advice from those who aren’t professionals, you might jeopardize your future.

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As A Boss, It’s Wise To Make Things Easier For Yourself

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If you’re the owner of a business, no matter how large or small, you’ve likely noticed that you have plenty of things to do. The life of a boss is a busy one, and they must not only be technically proficient, but a leader, someone who can look to the future. They must also be someone who can read accounts, keep customers happy, continue to stay updated with the times, understand what makes good branding and promotion, and how to engage repeat business.

A boss must also ensure they know how to treat people, but also see the best in people, and to hire people worth trusting. This responsibility alone could take up many business instruction manuals, and we know that because it has. So, we have confirmed that the leaders of business have plenty to do, just in case you weren’t 100% certain about this statement validity. We might define ourselves in this role as suffering with the weight of all these responsibilities. But does taking on more tasks make you a better boss? Or does it just limit how flexible and attentive you can be?

Well, it depends how you balance your workday. As a boss, it’s wise to make things easier for yourself. So long as you are able to take care of the following advice, this needn’t feel like you’re skirting your responsibilities:

Outsource Well

When running a business, particularly a small business, you’re simply never going to be able to take care of all the duties you need to take care of in one fell swoop. You will need to outsource, but it’s important to outsource the most appropriate responsibilities. For example, utilizing master data management could save you plenty of time when arranging the informational architecture of your business. Outsourcing can also help you balance your books perfectly in the early days with the specialist use of an accountant.

Some responsibilities might also just be worthwhile no matter how large you grow as a business. In the early days, you might simply clean your office yourself each day. But investing in the cost of a cleaning service can truly ensure that employees come to work bright and early, refreshed and satisfied with their surroundings. Outsourcing well can be worth its weight in gold, and truly take the weight from your shoulders. Just be sure to keep referring to the most appropriate professional services from the offset, because you never know quite what could be useful.

Delegate Authority

No business works if you find it difficult to delegate authority correctly. The sentiment ‘if you want a job doing right, do it yourself’ might be true when you’re huffing and puffing about how no one has taken the trash out back home, but at work, you need to sustain a thoroughly collaborative and communicative environment. For example, a public official cannot run their office unless they trust their team to enact their orders and policy decisions.

If you trust the job to others, you’d be surprised as to how much your employees try to respond in kind by achieving well within their role. It’s better to give your staff more freedom than less. We might think of giving our support staff some creative control in how they deal with a situation instead of being bound to a script when answering calls. We might give our hired graphic design contact to contribute some of their own designs (well compensated) as well as the main job you have hired them for. This might help you come to a new direction none of your expert staff had attained, but is thoroughly suitable. On the small scale, it might be trusting your trainee salon worker to give a haircut to a regular and prove what you have taught them, or perhaps upgrading an assistant chef to another, more complex kitchen station.

The more you can automate progress while also ensuring that important authority is given to enact positive changes, you will notice your team flourishing under this kind of trust, and you will likely feel your leadership becoming more competent.

Habits Of A CEO

When trying to figure out how to demonstrate solid leadership qualities, it’s tempting to do a quick Google search. This is no doubt where you’ll start to come across many ‘habits of a CEO’ advisory posts that are both vague and somewhat useful at the same time. So let us construct the ultimate advice in this vein to help you avoid that kind of search.

CEO’s read. Not just about business, but about a range of other topics. Autobiographies and biographies of those that inspire them. Side reading around the trends of the industry, and how to understand various factors in the long term. Books that detail large business cases that failed, or perhaps those that came from nothing to massive success. Reading should be an essential part of your day, not just for the content you absorb, but the cognitive development it promotes.

Keeping yourself in good shape will also help your mind throughout the day, and it will help you express the stress you’re not doubt going to feel. Meditation can help you reflect and feel more present, which in turn allows your subconscious mind work in your favor throughout the day. Eating well will also grant you more energy, helping you better navigate those long hours of the day.

These habits might seem like just simple tidbits of advice, but often, that which makes your day easier is how you make your responsibilities feel easier. It’s amazing how a massive presentation at noon can feel much less scary when you’ve had a light jog, healthy breakfast and meditative time to come to your mind in the morning. Sometimes, it’s the fundamental human needs that can make our job easier for ourselves.

With these tips, you are not only sure to get rid of the unusual and boring dead weight of being a boss, but feel more and more present in your job.

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