Why Can’t You Meditate Successfully?

When it comes to learning about mindfulness, about curbing your stress, and about managing your mental health in general, meditation is one of the most widely recommended practices around. The benefits that it has shown for countless people is a clear sign of its effectiveness, but how come it’s not working with you? Here, we’re going to look at a few tips you can use to better meditate when you want to reach that inner zen.

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Get some help in doing it

If you feel like you’re not going it right, then that shouldn’t be too much of a source of frustration. It takes time to learn how to do it properly. However, if you feel like you’re really have trouble grasping what you’re even supposed to do, then there are plenty of guided meditation apps like calm.com that can you learn the most effective techniques along the way. However, your method of meditation does not have to look like anyone else’s. These apps can also serve to create soundscapes that aid your meditation once you’re starting to get the hang of it, as well. 

Ease your body, too

Calming your mind with meditation can serve to also calm your body and ease some stress. But sometimes your body might be feeling to tense to even start to get into position. Even if hands-on stress relief techniques like massage therapy isn’t available, products like those available at caduceusscience.com can help you manage your stress in advance of the attempt so that you might be able to better slip into a meditative state. Taking the time to exercise, cool down, and shower, before you meditate, can be effective, as well.

Set the scene

The kind of environment you meditate in will play a big role in how easily you can get into it. Distractions are going to get in the way of any attempts you make. For that reason, it’s a good idea to try and do it somewhere isolated or, if you’re in a safe place, to wear noise-canceling earphones that at least make it easy to block out the outside world. Then, aromatherapy candles like those from neomorganics.com, or incense or reed diffusers, can help you create a more relaxing atmosphere with the right scents, making it easier to slip into the right state.

Don’t give up

One tip that is crucial is that even if it doesn’t feel like you’re able to reach any kind of meditative state within, say, the first ten minutes, that doesn’t mean you should give up. If you’ve set aside half an hour, you should meditate for half an hour. At some point, you start to lose track of the frustration and instead focus on the moment, which makes it easier to finally find your feet.

Hopefully, the tips above help you meditate a little more successfully. You don’t have to experience it exactly the same way that others do, but you do have to stick at it if you want to see the positive effects.

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Easing Stress, Anxiety and Sadness While on Lockdown

The COVID-19 outbreak has taken a huge toll on all of us. Take a look at this post in which we reflected on the death toll and economic impact as well as providing our post-partisan take on the government’s handling of the pandemic. These are uncertain times for all of us. And when uncertainty arises, anxiety is often quick to follow. The pandemic and subsequent lockdown have, quite understandably, precipitated spikes in anxiety and depression throughout the world. Still, as you grapple with the “new normal” it’s important to remember that you are not powerless. You can take control of your mental health and improve your psychological wellbeing by being proactive. 

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Here’s how…

Take control of your finances

Your household budget is a balance sheet of income and expenditure. You’ve likely taken a drop in income. But that doesn’t mean that you’re powerless to counteract it by addressing your expenditure. The best place to start is the kitchen. Get used to eating more wholefoods (especially fruits and veggies). Buy fresh when you can. Buy tinned, dried or frozen when you can’t. As you get used to batch cooking and meal planning you’ll be amazed by how much less you spend on food.

Don’t forget about your bills, either. Don’t make the mistake of assuming that you need to pay over the odds for your utilities, home or auto insurance. Start running some price comparisons now or investigate local providers and you might just be amazed by what you can save. What’s more, if you’re no longer using your car, you don’t necessarily have to go to the expense of insuring it

Make time for yourself

You’re likely sharing your home with the whole family. As a result, it’s likely feeling a whole lot smaller. It can feel as though everyone is getting under your feet, and inevitably cabin fever may set in. This is why it’s so vital that you (and everyone else in the household) make time for yourself. Remember that you still can, and should go outside to get some fresh air. Take a walk, sit in the park and read a book for an hour. Play some video games or watch a movie by yourself if it helps you unwind but be wary of spending all day in front of a screen. 

Make time for yourself and you’ll return to your family happier and better adjusted with more perspective on your problems. 

Eat more plants, and less of everything else

Fruits, veggies, grains and pulses are packed with nutrients and phytochemicals to keep your body in tip top shape and your immune system ready for battle. However, studies suggest that a vegetarian diet also helps to boost your mood and reduce stress. Not to mention saving you money. So load up on plant based foods and steer clear of anything processed where possible.

Exercise in whatever way works best for you

Finally, exercise can be a tremendous boon when trying to stay positive and alleviate stress. Exercise floods the brain with endorphins- the body’s feel good chemicals. Furthermore, the idea of wowing people with the new, leaner and healthier you once the lockdown is lifted can be a powerful motivator. 

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Ready For A Lifestyle Overhaul?

Ready for a shakeup in your life? Have the last few months or weeks given you something to think about? Are you ready to create a more enjoyable, better and more personal lifestyle for yourself? 

So here are a few suggestions of where you can make changes to help you improve your lifestyle. 

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Did you know that hobbies make you happier? Yes. There is a proven link between doing things we love, and raising our happiness hormones. So that makes hobbies the perfect antidote to stressful situations and life. 

Think about the hobbies you used to do as a child, remember how much you loved them? Do you still do them? Of course, interests change over the years, so you might need to find a whole new hobby! 

You might be thinking about refurbishing an old van and going on long driving trips. VanLife is a big movement, and focuses on travelling minimally, but comfortably. If you do decide that VanLife is for you, make sure you have a good car accident attorney on your speed dial! 

You might be looking for something a little slower paced. Baking bread is a great way to spend time and can be really wonderful for those who love a fresh, warm loaf with melted butter. 

Slow walks through the woods, combined with photography, can be so satisfying too. 


In modern times we often push our bodies and minds into spaces that aren’t healthy for us at all. The pressure of everyday life and the people who need us can make it hard to say no. You can make small and simple changes by taking a multivitamin, drinking more water, and heading to the doctor for a check-up. 

Also, consider how much fruit and veggies you are consuming. And make a conscious effort to increase the amount. You can get an application for your mobile phone or a range of cool gadgets to help remind you to drink more water


Having the same social circle for years is really cool in the current climate or technology. But there are people out there you have yet to meet. Adding new people into your group, or generally just meeting others can have a huge impact on you and what you do. 

New people are going to like different things to you, their taste in music might open you up to new artists and bands. Their love of ice coffee instead of a traditional cup of tea, and even their hobbies. All of these new experiences can give you a fresh perspective and a new zest for life too. 

And if you know that you aren’t giving your friends the best of you, it might be time to think about why you haven’t been keeping in touch as much as you should be. Modern life means people are busy, but how often you keep in touch with people will make a difference to your everyday life. 

And finally, unplug from technology for a few hours every day, read, draw or go for a walk. 

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Simple Hacks to Improve Our Mental Health

Mental health awareness is growing across the globe. This is excellent news for everyone as we don’t discuss this critical topic enough.

Your mental health is absolutely integral to your health and well being. We all face mental health issues from common to severe problems. Here are some simple hacks to improve your mental health this year.

Eat Healthy


The links between our food, gut health, and mental health are becoming very apparent. Recent research all points to our guts as being instrumental to the health of our minds. 

To put it simply, the healthier you eat, the healthier your mind. Filling your belly full of processed foods high in fat, salt, and sugar is a one-way road to low self-esteem, anxiety, and risk of developing depression.

Try to eat a mostly whole foods plant-based diet this year. The plant-based diet has been shown to help you to lose weight, boost your mood, reduce anxiety, and reduce stress.

Cultivate Joy


We live in a world where most people either don’t appreciate what they do have or continuously worry about what they don’t have. This makes us all miserable people. 

Instead, the simple act of expressing gratitude and doing the things we enjoy can help to significantly boost our mental helath. 

So, this year create a gratitude journal and write down what you are grateful for each day. Spend more time doing the things you love, whether that is making music or building custom airplane models. Do what makes you happy.



We all know how beneficial exercise is to our bodies. It makes us stronger, fitter, and puts us into good shape. What most people don’t realize is just how beneficial exercise is for your mind too. 

When you exercise, you realize a concoction of mood-boosting chemicals such as endorphins. Regular exercise makes you feel good about yourself and the world around you. Hence, why people get often get addicted to the gym.

Once you become an exercise regular to enter a cycle of positivity. You release endorphins this makes you happy, you go back to the gym, you get in better shape, you feel good about your body, you build self-esteem, and you start to feel good.

Practice Mindfulness

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Mindfulness isn’t just for spiritual gurus and those who visited India a few years ago. Mindfulness is an essential practice for your overall well being. We spend so much of our lives busy, stressed, and consumed with thoughts about the past and future. We rarely live in the now.

When we start living in the now, we become more present. Practicing mindfulness is done by meditating, expressing gratitude, walking in nature, and listening more. Once we start to ground ourselves, we begin to realize other priorities, such as our emotions.

With practice, you can start to objectively assess your emotions, control them, and choose better feelings. This can help significantly with anxiety, depression, anger issues, or past trauma. A helathy mind needs reflection and practice.

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How to Prevent Your Work From Impacting Your Health

We like to think that our jobs are good for us, but the reality is a little more complicated. While they can provide an income, they can have a negative impact on our health. That’s because, though we have some say in what we do, the working conditions are dictated by someone else; we’re not entirely (or probably even remotely) in charge of our working conditions. While you can’t change your career at the drop of a hat, you can take steps to protect yourself from potentially harmful aspects. We take a look at a few of these below. 

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Get Mobile

We tend to think that how we live is normal or natural, but in actual fact, the way we live would be considered pretty strange by our ancestors. The biggest thing they’d notice is that we’re so much less mobile than we were in the past. We’re always sitting down! And though it might seem comfortable, the truth is that it can have a negative impact on our long-term health. If you’re driving to work, sitting down all day, and then crashing on the couch each night, look at making some changes. Cycling to work and taking walks throughout the day will make a big difference.

Computer Safety

It’s true that working conditions are much safer than in the old days, because many fewer people are using heavy machinery. Yet, while the immediate risks of working at a computer aren’t that great, they can have a negative impact on your health. For example, you could develop RSI (repetitive strain injury) in the wrist from typing too much. And then there’s the matter of eye strain and the potential threats of blue light. In general, it’s best to monitor the effect that working at a computer has on your body and mind, and make adjustments as necessary.

Work-Related Stress

Your job will provide you with an income, but it sure can be stressful from time to time. And stress doesn’t just spoil your day: it can have a long-term impact on your health. As such, it’s best to find ways to deal with stress before it builds up to a problematic degree. One way to do this is to meditate each day — it only takes ten minutes but can have a profound impact on your overall ability to manage the more stressful side of life. 

In the Workplace 

Also, be sure to take a look at your workplace and identify any risks. Loose cables, clutter, and poor lighting can all lead to trips and falls, which can, of course, greatly compromise your health. It might not look like it, but it really is possible to have accidents in an office environment.

Regular Breaks 

Finally, even if you think you love your job, it’s still important to take regular breaks from time to time. Sometimes you won’t be aware of a particular health issue until you take a couple of steps back, and can see your situation with more perspective. 

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6 Ways To Improve Your Mental Health

We read a lot of articles about how to take care of our bodies. We listen when the hairdresser begs us to stop bleaching our hair, and we go to the dentist with relative regularity to keep our teeth in good shape. The one area of our health that we all seem to struggle with listening about is our mental health. People don’t tend to listen when they’re told to slow down and take their time with life, and that’s because there is a lot of pressure. We have work pressures, family pressure, social pressure – it’s a lot.

You should be able to feel healthy on the inside, mind, and body, and that starts with taking care of your mental health and realizing when things get too much for you to handle. You have to consider how you take care of your physical health to know how to take care of your mental health, too. So, if you go to the doctors with pain or aches, you should do the same when your brain needs help. If you choose to spend money on Invisalign to improve your teeth and make your confidence soar, then you should also go to a therapist and talk it out when life is getting a little too hard. When you feel low, you need to start taking care of your mind and unpack the things that are impacting your mental health. So, let’s check out six things that you can do for yourself to improve your mental health.

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Calorie Deficit & Get Your Steps In

Sometimes, eating well and moving as much as you can is enough. When you eat well, your energy levels shoot up, and you start to feel fantastic on the inside. A diet rich in fruit and vegetables is a diet that will have a long-lasting effect on your mental health. Getting your steps up? Well, we all know the benefits of a pleasant walk. Being in the fresh air and in nature can make a massive difference to your mental health. Not only will you be able to feel healthier and more energetic, but you’ll also be pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and out of your house at the same time.

Maintain Relationships

Connections matter and there are plenty of studies to show how isolated people can feel when their mental health is working against them. The best thing that you can do to improve your mental health is to connect with others. The people in your life that want to see you happy and strong are going to be around you to try to enrich your life. Let them do it. On the days you don’t want to see people, try to push yourself to see them and avoid the isolation that mental health issues promise you.

Laughter: The Language Of The Soul

It doesn’t matter how big or small it is, find something to laugh at. You can set aside time every single day to feel good, and it starts with the hobbies and activities that you set for yourself. Let yourself embrace the joy in the small things and smile. Sometimes, it takes smiling and laughing to be able to feel that same joy you’re trying to find.

Don’t Hide Your Feelings

We mentioned a therapist earlier on for a reason. Whether you choose to talk to a therapist or to your family, you need to keep your feelings on the table. People need to know that you are struggling, and the only way to show them that you are in pain is to stop hiding the way that you feel and be open. It isn’t easy to talk, but it’s good to do it. If your friends and family know you are struggling, they’ll be able to support you better and make you feel safe.

Meet A Goal

The sense of achievement that you can get from hitting a goal can be everything that you didn’t know you needed. It doesn’t matter what the goal is or how big it is; it’s going to be a momentous occasion if you stick to it.


A good night of proper sleep is going to do you and your mind a world of good. Sometimes, just the act of getting to bed on time each night (we mean 10pm, not 3am) is a big deal. Take baby steps and start by setting up your sleep environment. Once you’ve got those layers of bedsheets and pillows ready, set yourself an alarm a little earlier each night to get to bed on time. Eventually, you’ll be getting the sleep that you need.

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Common Ways People Try To Save Money That Isn’t Good For You (And What You Should Do Instead)

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Ask anybody in the modern-day if they’ve got problems with their finances, and the likely answer is that they most definitely do. We’ve all got our crosses to bear, whether it’s with regards to debt or we are trying to buy a house. When we look at the factors that result in so much debt, we have to take into account the stress is associated. Some people feel that they’ve got to cut so many corners in order to live a comfortable lifestyle, even though on the surface they are earning more than enough, but there are so many people that have no choice but to cut corners in order to sustain their current lifestyle which can have a major bearing on their health and happiness. What are some of these components that seemingly well off people need to undertake in order to keep their finances afloat? And if you are struggling, what can you do to ensure that you make life easier for yourself in a financial sense but also not feel the burden of modern-day money stresses?

Cutting Back On Insurance 

Many people feel that insurance is one of those things that you’re paying out for, but you never end up using it. When you are considering just how much of a difference it could make to your lifestyle, cutting back on a monthly payment for your insurance policy, whether it’s car insurance, life insurance, or even insurance for your worldly possessions it’s hardly a surprise that when people are struggling that this is one of the first things to go. But we’ve got to think about the overall repercussions of not having insurance. For example, driving without insurance is such a cardinal sin that you could pay the price, literally and figuratively, in a legal sense. Cutting back on insurance when you are trying to save money in terms of your home or are attempting to fix up your home as an investment could mean that you will suffer a burglary or an accident if it is not covered by insurance. The fact of the matter is that insurance is so important that it’s got to be one of the key expenditures in your life. It’s there should the worst-case scenario happen.

Going Without Food 

There are so many tales of families that are going without specific provisions so their children can go to school with full bellies. As sad as this is, it’s more widespread than you think. Many families feel that they’ve got to go without a meal and when we look at places like the UK who are suffering unprecedented amounts of austerity, the increase in food banks, where people go and get provisions that have been donated by other people, is on the up. But going without food means that we are putting our health at risk. If you feel that in order to make ends meet that you’ve got to go without food, partly this can be to do with the type of food you are used to but you can also figure out ways to make food go further. Something like batch cooking is a very good way to expand your provisions. Nobody should go without food. But the reality that many families are considering this is a stark truth that is hitting home to many people.

Not Earning Enough Money

Everybody feels that they are getting enough money in order to sustain a certain lifestyle. We all feel we could do with a pay rise, and the fact of the matter is that people are looking at side hustles or an extra job to acquire additional income means that we’ve got to be smarter with the money we have. When we’re trying to save for a house, one of the most challenging components is minimizing your debt. When we don’t earn enough money, we lean on credit cards too much in order to pay bills or just to get by from month to month. When we don’t earn enough to sustain our lifestyle, this is when we have to make alterations to our daily lives. There are so many resources out there that can help with this, such as the budget calculators you see online. Taking a long hard look at your incomings versus outgoings can be a complicated conversation to have, especially when you have dependents. But as we begin to unravel our lifestyle and see what we’re doing is harming us in the short-term, then we can start to make changes for the better.

The Temptation To “Keep Up With The Joneses”

We live in an age where we can get material goods on tap. We can order something online and within 12 hours, it’s in our hands. And when we live in such an immediate culture, the temptation to order things so quickly means that we end up paying the price. We’ve also got to think about the social implications of having things. While there is a leaning towards minimalism in some areas, when you live in in a neighborhood that looks affable, where everybody is driving a nice car, and appear to go on family trips all the time, this can send a message to us that we’ve got to keep up with them in one way or another. But this pressure results in unprecedented stress. When we are in a stressful environment where we feel that to maintain some sort of pretense we’ve got no choice but to spend money, we lose track of our abilities to control our incomings and outgoings. The first port of call can be to inquire about a pay rise or to earn more money, but when we increase our earnings to match our lifestyle, our expenditure begins to expand further out. This is a sign that we are never content with where we are. It’s a psychological problem rather than a physical one. By looking at your mindset and beginning to understand where your problems lie, you can start to make peace with the fact that money isn’t everything. Yes, it’s a cliche, but we’ve got to remember that when we only earn so much, we’ve got to stay within our means. Because we can feel that pressure with friends that have earned more over the years, trying to catch up stops us from focusing on the things that matter.

Dealing With Financial Stress

Because we live in an age of rising costs, we start to feel that we have no option but to fight against the rising tide. We only earn so much so we “put up with it,” and we think that because there’s only have one life to live that we should make the most of it. Some people say that it’s “only money” and this is a dangerous mindset, but we can all understand where they come from. It’s about not letting financial stress envelop your entire life; it’s about being happier despite the circumstances. We all suffer from some sort of financial burden. Whether we’re trying to save up for something, or we can feel that we don’t earn enough day-to-day. But when we start to address our earning potential in comparison to our learning power, we can begin to make better habits, not just in terms of spending money but in terms of how we live our lives. Some people can’t bear the idea of looking for bargains because it feels like a step down, but we’ve got to remember the important thing that learning a habit takes some time. It can take at least 8 weeks to set in. When you’re used to a particular way of life and having to cut back on your outgoings and it feels like you are depriving yourself, it’s important to remember that whether it’s trying to save money or keep up with the Joneses that a lot of people are feeling the pinch. They just feel it differently to you. They may have a fantastic house, but they may still buy their furniture off Facebook Marketplace. And this is something we’ve got to think about. Material goods aren’t the be-all and end-all, and for those people that are trying to acquire material goods in order to feel better or live a better life are feeling the pinch in a similar way.

The stress of living in the modern-day means that we feel we’ve got to treat ourselves. But it becomes a very vicious cycle when you begin to treat yourself to something because it’s a Friday and then you feel so stressed by Monday morning that a little treat would benefit you again. Not that we’re saying you need to deprive yourself but you’ve got to understand the repercussions of your actions. It’s something that we all suffer from now. Learning to save money can seem impossible when there are mounting bills. The cost of living is increasing, but the pay is not matching it. So tightening our belts becomes the default option. But this means that we get stressed and we lash out at the people we love. Perhaps in order to live a happier life, we’ve got to understand that when we reduce our material goods we don’t necessarily feel worse off. Whether you have got children that have peer pressure in order to have the latest toy or you live in a neighborhood where you appear to be the poorest person, the fact of the matter is that you’ve got your own life to lead rather than comparing yourself to others. And perhaps this is the key to feeling freedom in an emotional and financial sense.

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3 Reasons To Start The New Year With A Psychic Reading

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Every New Year brings about an increased sense of hope, with as many as 60% of people making New Year’s resolutions that will, if achieved, make them better versions of themselves. Despite only 8% of those who make resolutions actually achieving them, many more enjoy a spiritual awakening of sorts that affords them valuable insight into themselves. It is also during this period that an increasing number of people seek out psychic guidance to help them prepare better for the year ahead. While there are almost countless reasons to get a psychic reading done, some are substantially more popular when a new year is about to commence.

Enjoy improved mental well-being

Apart from being a time of hope, the start of a new year can also be exceedingly stressful. Obtaining a psychic reading can ease your anxiety and stress in many ways. Speaking to a psychic allows you to release all your emotions without fear of judgment. A reading can also help you develop a habit of introspection while encouraging you to trust your own intuition. A psychic reading may also help disperse a lot of doubt you may have had about the future, rendering your insecurities powerless and providing you with the motivation to start the new year filled with self-belief and optimism.

Receive affirmation of your capabilities

For many people, a new year also signals new beginnings in terms of employment. A psychic reading may not be able to tell you what the right job for you is, for instance, but it can give insight into whether it is the right time to make a significant adjustment career-wise. A reading can also help you discover new talents and suppressed passions, which can steer you in a new and exciting direction. Before making any decisions with regards to your career that you may regret later on, have a look at possible physic readings in the area that can help you gain the necessary insight needed to make an educated and responsible decision.

Understand your relationships

When a new year is upon us, we naturally seem to become more open to the possibility of either forging new relationships or making significant changes to our current ones.  People who are single may become increasingly eager to meet their soul mate, while those in a happy, long-term relationship may start thinking about marriage. A psychic reading, and especially one that is conducted face-to-face, can help you understand relationship dynamics a lot better. Even just one small revelation can trigger immense life changes, whether in the form of a more positive outlook on life in general, or as new-found confidence to pursue love with an open heart and open mind.  

While a psychic reading is unable to pinpoint exactly how the year ahead will pan out, it can offer some very valuable insight and guidance. By combining what you have learned during a reading with your own expectations for the new year, you may very well find that the year ahead will be one of the best you have ever had.

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The Secret Worries Men Have: Some May Surprise You

Women can openly talk about their worries. How do they do that? They have no issues with getting their girlfriends together. Discussing body parts, sex issues and everything in between. Men? We struggle to talk about some of the serious stuff. We spend more time worrying in secret than we do discussing the problems and finding a solution. Here are the secret worries of most men. You may worry about them all, or a few. Either way, the message is stop doing it in secret and talk to someone. 

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It’s not just women who wonder about their weight and look at how to lose unwanted pounds. Men are just as conscious about it. But don’t voice their concerns. Things like “Moobs” which is additional body fat in the pectoral area are one of the biggest weight concerns of men this decade. We worry about how to lose weight. How to keep it off. If the loved ones in our lives will still find us attractive with a bit of weight around our middle area. If it worries you that much, don’t let it turn into more of a problem. Discuss your insecurities with your partners and perhaps look into a change of diet and regular exercise. 

Anxiety and depression

It is more common than we realise for men to struggle with things like anxiety and depression, but yet it is still seen as a taboo subject today. Depression can come in all different ways and can stem from the workplace, your relationship or how you feel about yourself and your own self-esteem and confidence issues. Anxiety can also be part of this, or a mental health struggle in its own right. There are many things you can try, herbal remedies where you can click here for more information. Talking therapies where you can work on that inner conversation that you have with yourself. Even just admitting there is an issue can be a huge positive step in the right direction to help you on the road to recovery. 

Being a good father

Why men worry about this in secret is bizarre as only sharing this with your family would put your mind at rest straight away. It’s very healthy to fear your performance as a dad. That is one of the reasons you are a good father. Everyone worries about whether you are doing things right. Women will quite be quite happy to discuss this whereas men shy away from the subject. Just be assured that if this is a worry, then you are doing a great job. 

Hair loss

Men can spend too much time worrying about things like hair loss. When it is something that can’t be helped unless you look at treatments. The best advice would be to embrace your new image. 

Being too feminine 

Finally, would you be shocked if I said men worry about being too feminine? It’s true. Some men worry about enjoying fine wines and chocolate. Watching soppy films. All could make them look womanly and that they lose their masculine edge. 

So there you have it. The secret worries that most men never talk about. However, talking about these things could make the worry go away. 

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Three Step Remedy to Keep Your Spirits High During the Holidays

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Three Step Remedy for the Holidays

The holiday season has arrived once again. While it can be a magical time with colorful lights, festive parties and gift exchange; it also can trigger feelings of grief, loneliness or generalized depression. This is not uncommon as baby boomers get older and become empty nesters, widowers or are long time single. This year, try our three-step remedy to explore your greatest talents and passions, and use them to create community and philanthropy as a great way to enliven the holidays.

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A little self-exploration is a great way to gain powerful insights, and will naturally inspire you to engage and give. Begin by take an inventory of all the things you love to do. Take a moment to sit down at your table with a piece of paper, a pen and a cup of coffee or tea. Before you start – sit back, close your eyes and settle your mind.

Allow yourself to imagine a perfect sunny Saturday.

You have no chores, no obligations, and four hours to do whatever you want.  Ask yourself, What would I most want to do with this glorious day?” And then wait while various alternatives float to your mind. Write them down.

For some, the answer is as simple as taking a bath or reading a book. Others come up with golfing, taking a hike in Nature, working in the woodshop, or looking for shells on the beach. For others, it is making something artistic, cooking, or going shopping.

The answers you come up with are important, and often require little to no money. These ideas reflect the areas of life that gives you the most comfort and joy (to borrow from a famous Christmas carol). This is important, and can be a foundation of how to expand those things you love into a tool for engaging with others.

If doing something artistic was the top of your list- that is a powerful clue.

  • Explore: how can you expand your love of art into something bigger?
  • Engage: deepen your skills by taking a class. Not only will this sharpen your skills, but also introduce you to others who share the same passions.
  • Give: now, use your art to make small gifts (ornaments, cards, toys) and give them away to friends, a school, or a homeless shelter.

My grandfather was one of the happiest people I knew. He loved people, and would always fill his pockets with hard candy and give out a piece to everyone he met. He was someone who could never sit still and had endless talents. Well into his 90’s, he continued to explore, engage and give. When he could no longer work in his shop, his last years were spent wrapping coat hangers with yarn (keeps the shirts hanging nicely) and gave away hundreds to his children, grandchildren, and staff at his assisted living facility. He was adored, and never was without a smile.

The experience of loneliness is one of the most powerful signals from our bodies to act. There is a big difference between loneliness and depression, although they are often diagnosed as one. Feeling lonely is simply information- time to get out! Try this three-step remedy and see what happens.

Explore your passion more deeply, engage with others who share your interests and then give away our time, talents or gifts to others.

Children do this naturally. They may make pot holders, paint pictures or cut out paper snowflakes and then happily give them away without another thought. ‘Tis the season of sharing, caring and reciprocating. Come on in and join the fun!  What are some of your passions and interests that you have turned into tools to create community and philanthropy? We’d love to hear your stories on our Silvernest Facebook page. Join us and happy holidays!

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