Define Success, Then Chase It

Define Success, Then Chase It!

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A successful career is one of the most rewarding features in anyone’s life. However, what you consider success may vary greatly from what someone else thinks it should be. So, if you want to carve out a career that will leave you smiling, determining your definition is a vital first step to take.

Once you know what success looks like in your mind, you can set out on turning that vision into a reality. Here are the most common definitions to consider.

Big Earnings

Let’s face it; earning a salary is the chief reason for having a job in the first place. For many people, then, financial success is the main objective. When you trade your time for money, getting a bigger return will open the door to greater opportunities away from work.

Money-orientated workers should know that some careers will have a higher ceiling than others. Moreover, there are plenty of well-paid roles that do not require special qualifications. So, you can begin earning big in next to no time.

Find a lucrative career that you can follow, and then take the steps needed to maximize your hopes of securing the desired role. Simple.

Making A Difference

While earning money is an important issue for all workers, you may also have a desire to support society. When altruism is a priority in your eyes, there are many ways to make it happen. Whether it’s a role that secures status or retains some anonymity, it is your legacy.

The medical and healthcare sectors stand out as the best place to make a difference. Getting a degree from USAHS will open the door to several opportunities in this arena. Alternatively, you could look at working in the field of greener technologies.

Making a difference may even include teaching the next generation. Getting paid to make the world a better place is surely one of the best things anyone can do.

Managing Your Destiny

Establishing a sense of control in all aspects of your life can feel highly rewarding. As far as your career is concerned, putting fate in your own hands can be considered another form of success. Not least because it removes the ceiling on what could potentially be achieved.

Perhaps the clearest way to achieve this goal is to start a company. Registering a business at US formation is the first step to success. Whether it’s a side hustle, solo endeavor, or full company is up to you. Either way, working towards your dream in this way feels amazing.

Every target you hit will deliver a massive boost of self-esteem in the process. Moreover, you will be in full control to make any alterations as other life goals evolve.

The Final Word

There are over 7.5 billion people on this planet. So, to think that we all have the same career goals would be crazy. Whether starting out in your work life or looking to change direction, now is the time to think about what you truly want. When your eyes are locked on the destination, the road ahead will be a lot clearer.

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44 Positive Affirmations for Depression to Inspire Change

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MS Broudy Ph.D November 12, 2020

Have you ever given yourself a pep talk? You may not have realized it, but you were practicing a form of positive affirmation. Coping with depression can be discouraging and debilitating. Vocalizing certain phrases about yourself can provide a much-needed lift and motivate you toward positive change. Affirmations are a simple and useful tool that can help with depressive symptoms.

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What Is a Positive Affirmation?

A positive affirmation is a self-statement that emphasizes your strengths, values, and favorable qualities. According to cognitive theory, depression is caused by distorted negative beliefs. Positive affirmations can be used to counter negative perceptions and bolster confidence in your abilities. For instance, you can replace the thought, “Nobody will ever love me” with the affirmation “I am worthy of love.” Many people who use affirmations recommend standing in front of a mirror as they repeat specific phrases to themselves, but you can perform them anywhere you feel is comfortable and effective. For increased success, it is suggested you practice your affirmations at least twice daily.

Do Affirmations Work?

Positive affirmations have been associated with multiple factors related to the reduction of depressive symptoms. Self-affirmation has been shown to activate parts of the brain that are associated with positive self-valuation. There is also evidence that suggests that affirmation increases the neural pathways related to a person’s reward centers, which undeniably boosts your mood. Further, an affirmation can serve as a protector against stressful situations that threaten your well-being. It can also help motivate people toward healthy behavior, such as eating fruits and vegetables. Maybe most importantly, the use of affirmation has been directly linked to feelings of optimism and happiness.

Keep in mind, however, the effectiveness of positive affirmations depends on their content. You need to be able to believe in what you are saying for them to be helpful. If you tell yourself something you know is not true or is unlikely to occur, it probably won’t help.

For example, if you keep saying to yourself that you look like a supermodel or are as musically talented as Adele, you are less likely to be able to convince yourself. In addition, the above research concludes that personally relevant affirmations appear more effective. Therefore, the more specific the affirmation is to your life, the better. Finally, affirmations that focus on the future seem to be most powerful. As a result, emphasizing behavior or outcomes that you can work toward will make them more productive. It may be useful to think of an affirmation as an active roadmap for positive thoughts and behavior.

Affirmations for Coping with Depression

There are literally millions of possible affirmations. Here are 44 you can use that are specifically geared for dealing with depressive symptoms:

1) I have come this far and I am proud of myself.Tweet

2) This moment in my life does not define who I am.Tweet

3) My challenges bring me better opportunities.Tweet

4) My life has value and meaning.Tweet

5) These are just thoughts. Only I determine the way I choose to feel.Tweet

6) I choose to release negative feelings and thoughts about myself.Tweet

7) I will try to see the best in others.Tweet

8) I believe in who I am.Tweet

9) I am working toward making a better life.Tweet

10) I do not need to rely on others’ judgment for acceptance.Tweet

11) I do my very best and that’s enough.Tweet

12) I believe in my ability to get through this difficult period.Tweet

13) I am resilient and can handle problems that come my way.Tweet

14) I am worthy of happiness.Tweet

15) My goals are achievable.Tweet

16) Depression makes me sad, but it builds my resilience.Tweet

17) I feel low now, but tomorrow is another day.Tweet

18) Where there is life, there is hope.Tweet

19) I’m not limited to anything.Tweet

20) I love myself unconditionally, no matter how I feel.Tweet

21) I am not the first to deal with depression, and I won’t be the last.Tweet

22) Depression is just a human emotion and I am human.Tweet

23) My life is what I make it.Tweet

24) I find and enjoy the simple pleasures life is offering right now.Tweet

25) I experience depression but I can also experience joy.Tweet

26) There is nothing wrong with me because I feel sad.Tweet

27) If they can do it, there’s no reason I can’t do it.Tweet

28) I am taking control of my own mind.Tweet

29) My future is bright because I am designing it.Tweet

30) I am just as good as anyone else.Tweet

31) I am deserving of self-care.Tweet

32) My life is a gift.Tweet

33) Being depressed is not my fault. Tweet

34) I deserve love and happiness.Tweet

35) Smile and breathe.Tweet

36) I look forward to tomorrow.Tweet

37) This feeling will pass.Tweet

38) I’m okay right now.Tweet

39) I control my destiny.Tweet

40) I may be sad now, but that’s fine.Tweet

41) I am gaining strength every single day.Tweet

42) The depression I experience doesn’t define me.Tweet

43) I work on myself every day.Tweet

44) I will wake up tomorrow and do the best I can.Tweet

While the above affirmations are suitable for numerous situations, one of the strengths of using affirmation is that it can be tailored to fit any area in which you are struggling. For example, if you are lacking confidence in whether you will do well on a work presentation you could affirm “I am prepared for today’s presentation and I will be successful.” Again, the more specific an affirmation is to your particular situation, the more it will resonate with you and produce positive results. Fortunately, affirmations can be made as distinct as necessary and easily changed to fit a particular circumstance.

Positive Affirmation as Part of a Depression Busting Package

Practicing affirmations daily is a useful tool in the fight against depression. It can improve self-image, reduce stress, increase healthy behavior, and boost mood. It is especially effective if the affirmations are personally relevant, realistic, and future-oriented. In addition, creating and performing an affirmation is a relatively simple process that only takes a few minutes.

It should be noted, however, that affirmations are not suitable as a lone treatment for depression. Clinical depression is a serious psychological disorder that often requires professional intervention. Affirmation is most effectively used as part of a treatment protocol that may also include psychotherapy, online counseling, medication, and positive lifestyle changes. While some steps for dealing with depression can be initiated independently, such as reciting positive affirmations, the most significant improvements typically result from working with a trained professionals.

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How The Way You Drive Changes As You Get Older

Driving is possibly the closest thing that we have to a rite of passage in the west. Once somebody can full command of a dangerous two-ton motor vehicle, they suddenly enter a world of genuine life and death responsibility. It’s a critical part of the “adulting” process for many people. 

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Remember, society tends to coddle children as they grow up. We don’t accept any form of danger. And that means that young people never really get a taste of what it means to have genuine responsibility. Many of the attempts to build “rounded” people involve an element of fakery or make-believe. 

Driving, however, is just about as real as it gets in the modern world. Health and safety haven’t yet conquered the private motor vehicle, which means that many young people still have the opportunity to take the power of life itself into their hands. 


Of course, very few people describe what’s going on in these terms. We don’t have a narrative about what it means to become a driver. It’s just something people do. But the fundamentals are all there. Driving is a kind of gateway to adulthood – and one of the only ones we have left. 

You would think, therefore, that young drivers would be the most cautious. After all, they don’t have experience on the road. And they’re only just learning to get behind the wheel. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how it works out in practice. Instead, young drivers are much more likely to take risks than any other age group. 

It’s all to do with the maturing brain. Experts think that it takes until at least age 25 for people to develop the ability to adequately judge risk. So because so many people start driving in their late teens, they don’t have the psychological machinery in place to know what styles of driving are dangerous and which aren’t. It’s just not in their makeup. 

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Getting into a crash, however, can have all sorts of long-term financial ramifications. Financial recovery after an accident, for instance, often takes a long time and help from professional legal experts. Rehabilitation from injuries is also sometimes a multi-year project. 

As people get older, therefore, they begin to see the realities of these risks. It’s not just a matter of protecting themselves, but also their families and other people on the road. Getting into a crash can have all sorts of long-term adverse effects, both materially, and psychologically. 

Older drivers, therefore, tend to leave behind their “boy racer” days. Their primary concern becomes comfort instead of thrill-seeking. And that’s reflected in the way that they drive. 

They also naturally create a kind of unconscious intelligence that helps them become better drivers. Over the years, they learn about the kinds of situations that are dangerous and take precautionary action to prevent an accident. The interesting thing is that many people do this automatically, without even realizing it, which is why your chances of being in an accident plummet in your forties and fifties before rising again in old age.

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What To Do After A DUI

No one wants a DUI. No one wants to get behind the wheel of a car and cause an accident – but it happens. No one wants to have to tell their friends and loved ones that they weren’t careful with their life or with the lives of others. The thing is, this happens every single day. People have a great night with their friends and they drive. Or, they have a drink with a friend and then don’t drive for several hours – and still have a high blood alcohol level without realizing it.

Whether you have been pulled over for drinking and driving or having drugs in your system while you drive, you need to know what to do after you are issued with a DUI. If there is a chance that you could speak to an expungement lawyer and get your record squashed, that’s not something to concentrate on for right now. There are other things to do – and we’ve listed the four things that you must immediately do once you have been arrested.

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  • Remember, 10 Day Countdown.

You only get to have your license for ten days following an DUI arrest. The citation you get is a temporary license that allows you ten further days of driving, and after that, your license is suspended for six months depending on your blood alcohol level. From here, your lawyer can request a hearing to have your driving extended temporarily. You only have ten days to do this, and your attorney will have time to request all of the records and reports for the hearing itself. If they win, you can get your driving back. If they lose, you lose all your privileges for 30 days depending on your blood alcohol level.

  • Go To The Arraignment

You will have been given a date of arraignment, and this is the first appearance that you will go to where you will enter a plea as advised by your attorney. Even if you don’t have legal representation, you need to appear and you can ask the judge for more time to hire a lawyer.

  • Write It All Down

Even if you are compromised, you need to write everything that you remember down after the arrest. The whole day from start to finish needs to be written down to be remembered, and write to everyone you encountered, too, as they may be witnesses to your case.

  • Meet With An Attorney

You need a proper DUI attorney to discuss your case. You want the experts here – this could affect your whole future. The right attorney is going to help you to get through this case, advise you on what to say and what not to say. They will also be able to tell you what could be the end result from the arrest. You need to listen to your attorney and ensure that you understand what they are telling you. Anything you don’t understand, speak up!

If there is one lesson to be learned after a DUI, it’s never to repeat the process. You learn your lesson and you grow from it.

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Aspire To Be Successful, Despite Your Obstacles And Worries

We all have aspirations in life, things we dream of doing or being. They can be small purposes or they can be wishes that require years of work. Following your dreams may not be easy, but it is worth the journey because this is how your life makes sense. Sometimes finances get in the way or unexpected problems. So how can you balance it all out?

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Define a purpose that will lead you to success.

How can you know if you are on the right track if you don’t have an exact destination?

Success represents something different for each person. To be successful, you need to have clearly defined what success means in your particular case. Real success comes from achieving goals that are meaningful to you, and that help you achieve fulfilment and happiness. Try to write your definition of success, be it getting a job doing a particular activity that you enjoy, living in an area of ​​your city that you like a lot, having the possibility of travelling, or starting a happy family, among many other alternatives.

Ask yourself: What is it that makes you happiest in life? Do you want to spend time with your family, travel, play sports, practice a hobby? What would you do if money was not a concern? Then consider what the next step you need to take to get a little closer to that goal is. Create a long-term vision. Having a long-term vision can help you further refine your purpose. Where do you want to be in 5, 10 and 20 years? What can you do today to start the path that brings you closer to that dream? Imagine your ideal life. Close your eyes, visualize yourself and express your future in writing. Try asking yourself questions like:

  1. What career or job are you doing?
  2. Where do you live?
  3. Who is with you?
  4. How do you look
  5. What are you wearing?
  6. How do you feel?

You can even try writing down your perfect day, from start to finish, starting with the time you get up and each of the tasks you do.

Learn from failure and obstacles.

You are likely to run into some obstacles or failures in the process of achieving your dreams. But you don’t have to let any setback derail your plans. You have to learn to see failures as life lessons and deal with them constructively. A failure does not close all doors. You can close some, but others are still open. Maybe your plan to become an opera singer failed, but that doesn’t mean that a music career is out of your league. Perhaps you have the necessary preparation to sing in a choir, or perhaps you can use your musical skills to become a singing teacher. You should be aware that your failures may be monetary. If you have had any type of accident or issue at work or anywhere, you may need to look at hiring help. You may need to ask yourself when you need a car accident lawyer? This may seem like an obstacle, but you can overcome it. Don’t let any obstacle hold you back from creating the dream life that you desire.

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Important Life Lessons You Will Learn in Your 20s

Your 20s is such a wonderful time of your life. You have graduated from university and you have a real job that pays. You are an adult now.

In your 20s, there will be plenty of experiences that you will go through for the first time. You will laugh, you will cry, and you will learn a lot of life lessons that you will carry onto your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond.

If you are about to turn what is going to be one of the best decades of your life, here are some things you should expect.

You Learn to Become Independent

For many, your 20s is going to be the time that you can say you have become truly independent. You officially will move out of your parents’ house and into an apartment of your own. You are expected to pay your own rent and utility bills using the income you earn from working.

Every experience – from looking for a furnished condo for rent to fixing a broken tap – will teach you how to be independent. You only have yourself to rely on. In every aspect of your life, you get to make the decisions.

You Will Make a Lot of Mistakes

A word of warning: you will make a lot of mistakes. That is part of growing up.

No one is born knowing how to do everything. You do not magically gain the knowledge of how to install a light bulb or paint a wall when you turn a certain age.

Nowadays, you can look up tutorials online to guide you. However, expect to still make a lot of mistakes.

Everyone fails at some point. Even the most successful people were either rejected or made a mistake in their life. Stephen King’s first novel,Carrie,was famously rejected 30 times by publishers before it was finally published by Doubleday. Steve Jobs was once fired by the company he co-founded.

You will make a lot of big and small mistakes. The secret is to suck it up and turn it into an opportunity to learn.

Enjoy Being Single

In your 20s, you do not have a lot of responsibilities just yet. You only have yourself to look after.

So, when you are single, do not mope around. Sure, it is nice to have someone take care of you, but no relationship is perfect. There will always be fights no matter how kind and understanding your partner is.

Besides, when you are single, you do not have to ask permission to do anything. You can travel the world, stay up all night with friends, etc. This period of your life will eventually end, so make the most out of it.

Chase Your Dream

When you are young, you feel like you have all the time in the world. However, that is not exactly true. Many factors in life may interfere, preventing you from doing some things that you want to do.

While you have the time, do it. Stary paving the path that will lead you toward your dreams. You will have to make a number of sacrifices in order to reach your goals, but you do not have a lot to lose.

Spend your 20s experimenting, making mistakes, and learning. When you get to the next decade, you will have an arsenal of experience that will ready you for the new challenges that you will face.

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