University is a fantastic experience for both parent and child. Finally, the student gets the freedom to leave the house and spread their wings. At college, they get the opportunity to meet new people, party and learn. Although parents are often scared and sad, they’re also happy to see their baby grow up into an adult. Plus, it finally gets them out of the house. Hooray!
Jokes aside, higher education is the aspiration for families around the States. It’s a highway to a better life. So, why do some students fail and end up worse off than in the beginning?
Sadly, the freedom and independence can be too much for young minds to handle. As a result, there’s a chance they may make bad lifestyle choices at a very early age. Even though they aren’t in the house anymore, they’re still your child and the parenting role hasn’t finished. Here are the things to watch out for when they leave for college.
Bullying is wrongly associated with younger children, usually high schoolers and middle schoolers. It’s as if an imaginary line gets crossed when a kid turns eighteen and scuttles off to university. The reality is far different. The people who targeted victims in the 10th grade will do the same in the freshman year. No one is saying that your son or daughter can’t stick up for themselves, but it’s important to remember that bullying doesn’t discriminate. Signs of bullying include physical and mental scars, as well as an unwillingness to be vulnerable. If your child once loved being involved in social circles, the fact that they are now skeptical is a warning sign. Try and broach the topic if possible and let them know that they are not alone. They may not talk straight away, yet it’s healthy for them to have an outlet regardless.
It’s tempting to think that the younger generations have nothing to worry about because they are not old. At college, they can party, socialize and learn in a safe environment without any urgent responsibilities. At least, that’s how people view education after high school. The reality is very stark. Universities are by no means safe places because that goes against the fabric of what they represent. Students have to be challenged on a daily basis to learn and grow and leave a better person. So, the competition is fierce. Also, never forget that their short and long-term future rides on their grades. As a result, the pressure to hit deadlines and targets can be nerve-racking. Stress manifests itself in different ways, yet be on the lookout for depression. After all, this can accelerate into full-blown mental issues.
Now that there is no one there to ground them, the shackles are off and they are in charge. Do you want to come to a kegger tonight? Hell yes! Who wouldn’t?! Look, blowing off steam and having a few drinks is by no means the end of the world. Teenagers will always want to let loose and in many ways, a party is a perfect outlet. However, this culture can lead to problems. For one thing, studies often take a hit as they are too tired and hung over to go to class. As worrying to parents is the link between millennials and substance abuse in society. Millennials are not addicted across the board, yet studies show that prescription pills are a problem. Mixed with stress, drinking too much can lead to health problems.
Sometimes, the reason for coasting at college is quite simple – because they can. Let’s face facts and admit that teens aren’t the hardest working bunch. Granted, they did well in high school but they had their parents pushing them to succeed. Now, there is no one to answer to but #1 which is very dangerous. Students have blown off going to classes because they assume they can coast by and still graduate with a high-class degree. They can’t unless they are Rain Man smart. Symptoms include a blasé attitude to work as well as constantly watching TV and never studying.
The Wrong Choice
Every parent wants their kid to go to school and graduate with honors. Although it’s the dream, it’s not always how life plays out. There’s a chance that your child may hate university and want to drop out and do something else. They may never bring it up, though, out of fear of your reaction. If they are unhappy, ask them why and promise them you won’t get mad. Dropping out may be the best thing they can do depending on the circumstances.
How is your son/daughter coping at college?
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