Did you know that you can change how you feel in an instant?
See, you can’t control the outside world but you can control your thoughts, feeling and actions – meaning you can shift your focus to encourage more positive thoughts, or you can shift your perception to see things in a more helpful light… which, in turn will lead to you feeling more positive, which will subsequently lead to you taking more positive and empowered action.
Yet, if it’s true that we can change how we feel in an instant, why do so many people stay stuck in a state of misery, depression, anxiety, stress or upset? Why do so many people stay “stuck in a moment they can’t get off” as U2 put it?
The answer is that we have emotional habits that are second nature to us, they run almost automatically, as they operate from the subconscious rather than conscious mind.
A habit, according to Wikipedia, is a routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously. Now, if you want to change how you feel about your life, or yourself, you need to develop better habits.
One the best habits you can develop to living a happier life is to embrace the paradigm of loving yourself; meaning rather than beating yourself up the whole time you accept yourself for all that you are, focus on the good in yourself, and practice self-care rather than self loathing.
It’s not just internal though, indeed, one of the best ways to feel better about yourself is to contribute to others as this gets you out of your internal world and shifts your focus to the external, which on the basis that people when feeling down, tend to ruminate and get ‘stuck in their own thoughts’ is a good idea.
Whether you merely help an old lady across the road, or do something more structured such as to volunteer in mississauga, when you start to shift your focus away from your problems and to helping other people you will be rewarded exponentially in terms of the shift that takes place within your psychology and physiology. Indeed, it’s been reported that many people experience something known as a “helpers high” due to the endorphins released when you help another person.
In addition, here are three tips to help you feel better about yourself and your life up from the inside out rather than the outside in.
- STOP TRYING TO FILL THE VOID
It’s very easy to chase after external things (e.g. spending sprees) or people, in order to fill the void within – but the best way to fill the void you feel is to find nourishing ways to flesh out your life that provide meaning and fulfilment.
- STOP DOING THAT WHICH HURTS YOU
If we were to consider the metaphor of back pain; there’s usually a trigger that causes this pain – similarly, there are activities you engage in on an emotional level that trigger emotional pain.
- GET RID OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Negative energy is contagious, it rubs off on you, so if you’re around negative people you will become negative yourself. The trick therefore, is to get around positive people and allow their energy to rub off on you meaning you will energetically be pulled up rather than dragged down.
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