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Is It Time To Grow Up?

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The relationship that many of us have to the concept of adulthood can be kind of strange. Previous generations had very clear lines in terms of what constituted the move into adult life. They would leave education, head into work, buy a house, get married, and that was basically what was expected of them. Younger generations have moved away from those expectations and it’s now much easier for people to carve out their own sense of who they are and who they want to be. However, that’s also come with the downside of often leaving a lot of people unsure of how to navigate the complexities of adult life. A lot of people in the modern era end up feeling like they’re no longer kids but they’re not exactly grown-ups either. This can end up causing a whole lot of stress and difficulty in many people’s lives as well as potentially impacting everything from their mental health to their relationships. With that in mind, here are some things in your life that you need to start taking control of if you really want to grow up.

Your car

One of the most common things that leaves a lot of people feeling like they don’t know how to be a “real adult” is that they often have no idea how many of the things in their life actually work, choosing instead to just put it in the hands of someone else. There is no better example of this than your car. If you’re constantly in a position where you’re having to call your parents to give you advice on what to do with your car or you have no idea what a mechanic is saying to you, it’s time to get educated. There are plenty of places online where you can learn basic car maintenance and a lot of it is far simpler than you might think. Of course, there will always be things that need to be dealt with by a professional so make sure you have the number for a great mechanic like Aarrow Transmissions. That way you can be sure that your car is in safe hands, even when things go wrong.    

Your health

When you’re really young it’s often easy to feel like you’re totally invincible. Of course, the moment that you enter the adult world it becomes pretty clear just how untrue that really is. Because of that, a lot of people tend to try and ignore any issues with their health. Whether it’s a persistent cough or some aches and pains, sweeping it under the rug is always going to be a bad idea. Make sure that you’re going for regular checkups with your doctor and if something is wrong, get it looked at straight away. Just because no one else is going to call the doctor for you doesn’t mean that you can just ignore any issues.

Your bills

Money is a serious cause of stress for just about everyone. That’s just the nature of the society we live in. If you want to do anything, you’re going to need the money for it. However, if you’re not keeping track of your finances in a clear and consistent way then you’re setting yourself up for a whole lot more stress and anxiety than you really need. Keeping a budget isn’t that complicated, it just requires a decent degree of dedication. The same goes for monitoring your spending and trying to put some money away in a savings account.

Your communication

One of the main signs that someone is struggling to really act like an adult is that they are unable to communicate with the people around them. If you really want to feel like a grown up then the first step is being able to express yourself clearly to the people around you and be honest with them. Hiding your emotions or letting them out in aggressive outbursts are the behaviours of children, not responsible adults.

Of course, one of the most important things to remember is that there really isn’t anyone out there who’s going to define what “adulthood” means for you or for anyone else. Sure, the things in this list are great starts to help you begin to feel more like you have a sense of control over your adult life. However, if you really want to figure out what being an adult means to you, that’s something you have to come to on your own. That can be a pretty scary prospect but that’s the trade-off for the freedom that comes with it. And it’s a trade that many would gladly make.

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Maintaining Wellness During and After Divorce

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Navigating a divorce is stressful and unpredictable.  Regular exercise and a healthy diet go a long way in managing our stress and making us feel a whole lot better in general. A grounding activity like yoga or Pilates is relaxing and helpful. Maintaining healthy habits and taking care of ourselves is vital during this uncertain time.

My Journey to be Well

Around the time that I separated in 2014, I read an article about staying healthy during divorce. I started a holistic health care regimen while I was going to graduate school. Just as that regimen helped alleviate the stress and pressure of school, it stood to reason, it would help alleviate the stress and pressure of the divorce process. That article certainly confirmed it, so I continued my health and wellness path, switching modalities as needed, based upon how I was feeling and what I needed at the time.

For example, when I first began my holistic journey, I adopted a daily meditation practice. That was fine-tuned later when I took a Spirituality in Leadership class in business school; then I started taking classes to learn Qigong, the meditation practice that goes with Tai chi. Now I do a simple 10-minute breathing/meditation exercise every morning and set my intention for the day. It doesn’t take a lot of time, but it is a very simple, grounding experience.

Exercise is key. I try to walk or use the elliptical every day, preferably in the morning, after my meditation exercise and before I start checking and getting involved in answering and sending emails. If I exercise first thing, then I’ve done it and don’t have to think about it for the rest of the day.

Get Yourself a Team

The rest of my wellness regimen is covered by my wellness support team. Much of the stress and unpredictability of your divorce can be alleviated from the beginning, if you put a wellness support team in place, and I highly advise it. The wellness team members are there in their expert capacity in each of their modalities to help you deal with the stress and intense emotion caused by the divorce.

My suggestion is to get referrals for all of these team members from people that you trust, family, friends or colleagues, and then interview each to make sure that the person is the right fit for you. It is important that you feel truly supported by each of your team members.

The Four Members of your Wellness Team

Therapist (LFMT, MFT) – Hopefully your divorce attorney or mediator has suggested that you start seeing a therapist; I am suggesting that you do. There will be a lot of emotion during the divorce process and a lot of diving deep into the whys and hows of your relationship. A therapist is the best person to work through all of that with you.

Massage Therapist – Massage is a great stress reliever. I started having regular massages about eight years ago and it has made a world of difference relieving stress during my divorce.

Acupuncturist and/or Chiropractor– Either or both of these practitioners helps relieve the stress that manifests itself in different parts of our bodies, most often our neck, shoulders and spine. We tend to tighten all of these when we are stressed and in “fight or flight mode”.  Personally, I hadn’t been to either for 30 years because my first experience with both was not that great: huge needles at the acupuncturist and intense bone cracking at the chiropractor. I learned recently that there are acupuncturists who use little thin needles with great effect, and a chiropractor who uses less intense bone cracking techniques. I am now a huge fan of both and I receive treatments regularly. Both have done wonders helping me to achieve stress relief! Also, it is often possible to find practitioners who are also covered by health insurance.

Certified Coach – A certified coach plays a different role than a therapist. A coach is more like a mentor, a person with whom you discuss your goals and your plan for achieving them. In the process you explore your values and life purpose. A coach will guide you and help you to be accountable for what you say you want/are going to do. Together, you will create a vision of your reinvented life!

My wellness team told me they were pleased that I was being proactive and preventative in keeping myself healthy during this time in my divorce, instead of waiting to seek them out when the process was over and I was ill from the stress of it all. That, unfortunately, is what most of their patients did. I encourage you not to be MOST patients! I celebrate your continued path to health and well-being!

To learn more about navigating the transition of divorce, visit my website at http://www.sbhcoaching.com. You can also join my private Facebook group at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/LifeReinventedPrivateGroup

 

Sandra Hughes is a leadership coach for adults 40+ going through significant transitions. She  created Life Reinventedto help people navigate divorce. She has a CPCC designation from The Coaches Training Institute, and MBA from Santa Clara University. Sandra had a long corporate career before navigating her own divorce after 27 years of marriage. She is committed to helping people achieve integrated lives and finding the joy they deserve.

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Conversations You Shouldn’t Have With Strangers

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Sometimes it can feel like an impossible task to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger, and other times it is the easiest thing in the world. It all depends who the person is, and what you think of them when you first see them. Once you have gaged what kind of person you think they are, you are more likely to be comfortable speaking to them about certain subjects. However, there are things that you should never talk about, no matter how confident or strongly you feel about them. In this article, we are going to be looking at some of these things, so if you want to know what they are, keep reading below.

Religion

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Religion is something that you should never talk about in public or with a stranger. We are not saying that you can’t share your faith with those people who are interested in it, but for some it is just an awkward point of conversation and another way to isolate others. That is why no matter how you feel, you should probably not be bringing it up in a new conversation. For example, how would you feel if someone came up to you and asked you who created God? It seems like a straightforward question, but when you have conflicting views this could be an issue.

Tolerant people are all around, but there are others who are not so tolerant of others beliefs. That is why it is always best to keep your opinions to yourself on this subject, unless explicitly asked by the other person.

Politics

The next thing that you should not be talking about is politics. So many relationships, friendships and other social norms are destroyed by two people having opposing political views. It has also been known that some people take this too far, and can start being mean or abusing the other person who does not agree with them. To avoid this situation, all you have to do is not talk about this with people you are not close with. This way, things cannot get into bad territory and you are not going to be judged for your opinions and values.

Money

Finally, money is something that you shouldn’t talk about. How much you make, how you spend it, what kind of things you have and so on could easily make someone else feel down about what they have. We are not suggesting that you can’t be glad and happy about the life that you are living, but try not to rub it in the face of others. You never know who is struggling and would love what you have but further than this, it could cause you a lot of social problems that you are not going to want.

We hope that you have found this article helpful, and now know some of the conversation topics that you should not bring up with strangers. Avoiding these topics is not only going to be helpful when it comes to building relationships, but it could also spare someone else feeling bad about how they feel.

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Looking Out For Yourself When Times Get Tough

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Throughout our lives, we will go through some amazing times and some more turbulent ones. When we were in our teenage years, we thought that a bad day was the worst day of our lives. We thought that getting older and becoming fully fledged adults would mean our freedom and maturity would allow us to get over the bad times. That’s not exactly the case, though, is it? It turns out that, sure, our moods swings as younger people were frustrating, but they didn’t have anything on the stresses and strains of adult life. Whether it’s personal or work, things can get very tough at times.

When things get a little rough, you can feel alone and that there’s not too much that can be done to fix them. You can rest assured, however, as there are lots that to do that can help – some simple and some more complex. If you need a little push, here are a few simple ideas that may go a long way.      

Talk To Your Close Ones

A lot of people don’t like to open up to their friends and family about whatever situation that they’re going through – no matter how big it may be. It’s not a great idea to keep things bottled up as they’ll probably only get worse. As well as providing all the emotional support you need, they’ll be able to look at the situation from a different perspective and give you anything from small tips to giant favours. They won’t be able to advise you and make you feel better if you keep things under lock and key.

Talk To A Professional

Taking things a little further and speaking with somebody who knows almost everything about what you’re going through might be of great help. Whether it’s your local doctor or a specialist, they will be able to advise you on where to go and what to do. It is their passion and their love to make sure you’re okay with everything.  

Exercise

Making sure that you’re activity will help you when you’re feeling a little down in the dumps. Even if it’s just a twenty-minute walk. Your body produces natural happiness and positivity after exercising, and you’ll also be making yourself fitter in the process. Bad things won’t disappear completely, but you’ll be better prepared and reinforced mentally.

Eat Well

Now, it’s lovely to eat junk food, and it feels good from time to time, but you don’t want to keep the habit up frequently. You’ll just feel more sluggish and that can’t help you much when you’re already going through a sticky patch. Make sure you’re eating all the good, nutrition stuff while drinking heaps of water and keeping active.

Be Positive

Finally, just look at the bright side of things. Now, obviously not everybody has the sunniest disposition, and that’s okay. But even if you’re a glass half empty type, just reviewing the situation and hanging on to the positives will help out a bunch. Finding some good may give you some motivation and something to look for.

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5 Ways to Encourage Your Child to Play Sports

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We all know that playing sports is healthy. Not only does it encourage social skills and friendships, but it also gets children active which is a huge part of a healthy lifestyle. The good news is, there are lots of sports to choose from, so it’s likely you’ll find something your child enjoys. Here are a few ways to encourage your child to get involved in sports.

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Don’t Force Them

With the rise of computer games, social media and devices for children, it can be harder than ever to tempt young minds into playing sports. The important thing is not to force them into doing a particular sport. Even if you’re a keen football supporter or you’ve been watching tennis since you were a child, your own child may choose something entirely different. Allow them to explore the options, but only invest in equipment when you know your child is serious about playing.

Grace Under Pressure

Every sport is competitive, and competition can take its toll on children. When a child loses a match, it can feel like failure, even when they played their best. In most sports, children aren’t given trophies just for taking part, so learning to lose gracefully is part and parcel of playing sports. It’s also a great life lesson – being a sore loser won’t get your child very far. Teaching your child that losing is okay, as long as they have done their best will set them up for playing any kind of sport.

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Give Them What They Need

There are many sports that require parents to make an investment. Sports classes often cost money in themselves, but you may also be required to buy equipment and clothing. For example, youth baseball jerseys aren’t always cheap, but they do make a child feel like part of the team. Having the right equipment isn’t just about looking and feeling good; it’s about giving your child the best chance at succeeding in their chosen sport.

Lower Your Expectations

It’s easy for parents to put pressure on their children without realizing it. It’s important to allow your child to develop at a normal rate, rather than pushing them to achieve things sooner than anyone else. The only role you need to play is that of a supportive parent. Make sure your child attends practice as often as possible and he is surrounded by individuals who will encourage him to do his best.

Choose a Good Coach

Many child athletes stick with their childhood coaches well into adulthood and through their careers. Finding the right coach can take some time, but once you have a good one, they’re worth their weight in gold. Your child’s coach should have a proper teaching technique but also be able to distinguish the differences between each student. Knowing what a student needs and how to bring the best out in them is a talent only few coaches possess.

Remember that your child needs down time while playing any sport in order to create a balanced life.

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When An Extreme Situation Leads To Odd Decisions

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Life is full of surprises. Some are pleasant and feel like an unexpected gift. Others are much more unpleasant and dramatically increase your stress levels. The definition of an extreme situation – or a bad surprise, if you prefer – vary from one person to another. For one individual, it could be facing a painful breakup. For someone else, receiving a life-changing diagnosis can force them to take hard decisions. But the fact is, regardless of the crisis you’re facing, it’s your ability to make the appropriate decision that can get you through it.

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When you start neglecting yourself and others

A tricky situation can make you feel as if you were ambushed with no way to escape. Court cases can often dramatically affect your nerves. However, if you intend to have a fighting chance, you need to look after yourself and those around you during a difficult time. For instance, a stressful divorce could suck up all the positivity in your life. However, you can’t afford to ignore your mental and physical health in the process, or even your children. Similarly, even though you might feel pushed into a corner, try not to indulge in unhealthy coping mechanisms. Alcohol, for instance, is never a solution to your problems.

When you take a rash decision

If you’re going through a breakup, or you’re fighting for child’s custody, it’s difficult to think straight. There are a lot of nasty things that can be said, and as a result, you might find yourself thinking that you want to prevent a similar situation happening in the future. As a result, it’s not uncommon for distressed men to decide to have a vasectomy, as a way to protect themselves. However, even though there are cases of reversal vasectomy, you need to assume that your decision will have lasting and permanent consequences on your life. What feels right today in a context of anger might be deeply regretted tomorrow in a context of love. Take the time to evaluate your decisions before you act.   

When you can’t take it anymore

That’s it; you’re done now. You just want peace, and you’re going to have it. There are moments in life when you realize that it’s all too much for you. Taking rash decisions in anger is a mistake. However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t decide rapidly when you are thinking clearly. For instance, quitting your job isn’t always a terrible idea, especially if you figure out early that the company isn’t right for you. You need to be sure that the decision is reasoned, however! Walking away from a bad situation can be the best thing you do.

When you decide to watch and let it go

Finally, if you don’t know how to decide, you might be tempted to become a spectator of your own life. However, things don’t sort themselves out if you don’t intervene. You need to listen to your intuition instead of overthinking your options. Your intuition is a perception of the situation that is built on insights you might not be aware you have.

In conclusion, it’s impossible to tell what is the right or the wrong thing to do. However, it’s fair to say that you can measure the potential harm each decision can cause, and figure out the appropriate path from there.

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4 Things You Must Never Do When Going Through A Divorce

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In any relationship, divorce should always be the final option. When possible, you should look to work at your marriage, not only for your sake but also for the sake of your children. Of course, sometimes, despite your best efforts, divorce is inevitable, especially when the marriage is broken beyond repair. Should this be the case, there are things you should and shouldn’t do when moving forward. For the purposes of this article, here are the things you should never do.

#1: Don’t neglect your health

It’s rare that divorce is easy on a person’s health, as it can bring about feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. It’s important then to take care of your emotional and physical needs during this time, such as speaking to a doctor or a counselor, spending time with friends, and finding ways to bring more positivity into your life during this dark time. Time does heal, and life will go on, but it will happen a lot faster if you care for yourself in the process.

#2: Don’t neglect the needs of your child

While divorce is difficult for you, you must never forget what your child is going through. Many children go through feelings of guilt when mommy and daddy split up, as well as anger, sadness, and anxiety. As a parent, you need to reassure your child that he/she isn’t to blame. When possible, you need to figure out joint custody, working out both mother’s rights and father’s rights with a family attorney, so your child still has time with both of you within their young lives. And you should take time to listen and to talk to your child, as well as allowing them the privilege of a family therapist to further talk through their feelings and emotions.

#3: Don’t do something you will later regret

Emotions will be running high, and if you’re not careful, you could do something that you will later regret. You could jeopardize both your health and your custody rights by falling into bad habits, such as falling prey to alcohol when dealing with your feelings. You could cause loyalty conflict within your child if you continually bad mouth the other person. And you might post something negative about your partner on social media, and that could later be used against you in court. You don’t want to hurt yourself or your child. You don’t want to do something that could affect your custody or visitation rights. So, while it isn’t easy, be mindful of all that you do and say.

#4: Don’t listen to divorce advice from friends and family

When it comes to advice about the divorce, the only person you need to get advice from is your attorney. They will talk to you about custody rights, sharing joint assets, court orders, etc. Don’t listen to the advice of anybody else professing to know what it is they are talking about, such as family members and friends who are trying to be protective of you. Sure, they can support you, offer you a shoulder to cry on, and help you with your personal life, but if they try and offer you advice based on what they have experienced themselves or seen on the television, politely say ‘no.’ Each divorce case is unique, and should you act upon bad advice from those who aren’t professionals, you might jeopardize your future.

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Wisdom is Knowing the Right Path to Take in Life. Integrity is Taking it

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The start of the new year is a chance to reflect, to look at the goals we set last year, and decide what we’d like to achieve in the coming months. It’s a fresh start, an opportunity to check in and make sure we’re on a path that’s taking us towards where we want to be. Instead of setting superficial resolutions this year that will be forgotten about by February, why not delve a little deeper? Changes like these could massively improve your life for the better.

Move somewhere new

The place where we live affects our lives in a big way. From the property itself, the space we have and the way it’s decorated- to the general area and overall location. If your home is cramped and small you might find yourself getting stressed and running out of space. If it’s in a busy city, you might be tired of the noise and pollution. If the area has gone downhill since you moved in, you might be worried about crime and other social issues. Don’t feel like you’re stuck in the place you have, it’s so worth doing some research and finding what else is out there. Property sites like William Pitt have home valuation tools so you can see what yours is worth at the click of a button, and from there can see what else you can afford. Moving can mean a fresh start, and a chance to start living life the way that you want.

Consider a change of career

Most of us spend around forty hours a week at work, and so if you’re unhappy in your job, you’re more than likely going to be unhappy in the rest of your life too. While a change of career is a huge deal, it could well end up being one of the best things you’ve ever done. You could go back to university and study for the qualification you need, or do it part-time from home. Otherwise, you could look into alternate ways of changing career, such as starting at the bottom and working your way up. While you’ll experience a drop in money to begin with, it could lead to far better prospects later down the line, and a job you’re much happier in.

Make an effort to meet new people

It’s so easy to fall into a rut in adulthood. We spend most of our days working, and spend time with the same few people. We rarely push outside our comfort zone and try new things where we’re exposed to new individuals. It’s easy to think that we don’t need more friends, but meeting others adds depth and interest to life like nothing else. You might not like everyone you meet, but everyone brings with them lessons. They can teach you a new perspective, or even reflect something of yourself back at you which motivates you to change. They can introduce you to new things that you simply would never have done on your own. If you’re single, why not sign up to a dating app and go on some dates? Join a meetup website and meet with others with the same interests as you. Reconnect with old friends on Facebook, and say yes to more social invitations. You wont regret it!

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Discovering Your Happiness In Life: Making “The Friend Cull”

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We change. This is a given in life, we develop new goals, new approaches to our existence, but we don’t always envelop our new personality with open arms. There are so many things we hang on to, friends being one of them. And when we look at our group of friends, has it got to the point where it’s time to bid goodbye to some of them? This can be incredibly intimidating, but for so many out there, making the cull is an essential procedure. Why should we do this, and how can we do this?

The Threat Of Toxic Friendships

There’s no need to overcomplicate things, when we are in some sort of toxic relationship it negatively impacts us. That is the bottom line. But we still procrastinate, and do our best for the other person, even if they drain our resources. You could find that they talk about their problems, with no thought for yours, or you could find yourself in a social circle, with the same people, talking about the same old things, again and again, every Friday and Saturday night. Sometimes we feel we can’t escape these because we’ve known them for so long, or we’re caught in certain behaviors. Social activities, like drinking, becomes the distraction that masks our true feelings of these people. And if you get caught in a pattern, it’s very difficult to escape from. Toxic environments result in you feeling inadequate. If you feel like this, it’s time to make a break for it.

Implementing The Cull

Sometimes it’s not about being harsh and cutting someone out of your life, you could find that you’ve hit the point in your existence that you want to try new things and change your lifestyle habits. For many, discovering how to stop drinking by changing your goals to encompass exercise and a clearer mindset could be all it takes for you to realize that the people you’ve been swanning around with aren’t good for you anymore. When you have discovered that these people are bad for you, it can be stressful to implement the cull. Why? Because what if you’ve got no other friends? It’s a very natural concern, but when you weigh up the balance, what would you rather be? Alone and happy, or acquainted and miserable? When it’s someone you’ve known for a long time, it can be difficult to explicitly say that “I’m done”. And if you feel unsure if you’re about to do the right thing, all you have to do is arrange to meet up. This one meeting will likely be more than enough for you to confirm in your mind what you need to do.

If there’s one person in your life that is bad for you, it can take some time to see this. After all, we all share mutual passions and adventures in life, but after a while, these are all we have to talk about with them. And when you’ve moved on and you don’t want to hit the clubs, or talk about the same thing that happened a decade ago, making the call to cull will be the best thing that ever happened to you.

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Improve Your Aging Parents’ Future With These Tips

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One thing that not many of us look forward to is our parents becoming old and frail. This is something that is impossible to prevent, but it can still be a very upsetting prospect. Thankfully, though, your parents don’t have to suffer in their old age, especially if they have you to help support and care for them.

Looking after elderly parents is a big responsibility and not one that should be taken lightly. It will take its toll on you as it can be quite emotionally stressful, and it can also be difficult for them as they have to get used to a role reversal. They will have spent so many years looking after you throughout your childhood and caring for you, that this change in roles could be hard for them to come to terms with.

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It doesn’t have to be so difficult all the time, though. If you use these next few tips, then you can help your aging parents look forward to a much brighter future.

Be Realistic With How Much Care Is Needed

Firstly, you should sit down with your parents and consider exactly the kind of help and support that they might need. Ideally, you should plan for care that they need right now and any forms of extra care and support that they might need in the future. One way to figure out the kind of care that is needed, it’s worth listing all the tasks and things that you currently help them with. It’s also worth considering whether the likes of constant supervision or assistance through the nighttime are required as well. Once you have this list in front of you, it should help you shape your parents’ care plan.

One option is to consider home care services if your parents are ambulatory and able to live comfortably at home but need some assistance with some day-to-day tasks. These can be found in many cities, for example, you could look into a home care agency in North Philadelphia or elsewhere closer to you as they can provide seniors with care without requiring them to move out of their homes.

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Club Together With Your Siblings

If you aren’t an only child, you will be able to team up with your siblings and help support your parents together. This will make it a lot easier on you as you won’t be the only individual sole responsibility for all of the help and support. You will each be able to take it in turns to check in on your parents and help them with their various chores and tasks. Don’t worry if you don’t have any siblings. Perhaps you have some other close relatives who will be able to help you out with looking after your parents? Not only will sharing the responsibility give you a chance to get on with your own life in your spare time, but it also gives you someone who you can share the financial pressure of elderly health care with as well.

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Don’t Harm Your Own Health In The Process

If you are busy with your parents most of the time, then it can be all too easy to forget about your own health and wellbeing. Looking after elderly parents can be stressful even at the best of times, and you need to make sure that the stress doesn’t build up too much. This could have serious implications for your mental health if it does. One great way to stay on top of your own wellbeing and to reduce any stress is to practice good self-care. The main focus of self-care is to make sure that you take plenty of time for yourself and follow a balanced and nutritious diet. If you need any further tips to improve your self-care, it’s worth checking out an online guide like gaiam.com/blogs/discover/5-self-care-tips-for-the-busy-working-female.

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Consider The Different Senior Housing That’s Available

It might be necessary for your parents to move out of their home and into some senior housing. This is usually necessary if one of your parents suffers from a chronic illness and requires regular medical attention and assistance. Even if neither of your parents are ill, they might still be better off moving into a nursing home if they are frail and can’t manage on their own anymore. If one of your parents is particularly ill or quite frail, they might need a home that offers around the clock assistance from skilled nurses. You can find out more about this from mcknightplace.com/skilled-nursing and other sites online. However, if your parents are able to enjoy a bit more independence, then they might simply want to move into a retirement community. This can include assisted living homes that offer a range of assistance without compromising your parents’ independence. These offer apartments or small houses that are built close together and will feature certain facilities like a corner shop. They give retirees and pensioners the chance to live together with people in a similar situation to themselves.

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Look For Financial Help

There is no denying that support and health care for the elderly can be very expensive. So, there’s a good chance that you might have to find some financial support to fund everything. Thankfully, there are quite a few different support options available. Firstly, your parents should be receiving a state pension. You might want to use all or part of this to put towards their care fees. Of course, any other money from other pensions that they might be receiving could also go towards this as well. There are other government benefits that your parents might be eligible to apply for, especially if they are particularly unwell.

Write Up An Emergency Plan

You never know when something can go wrong, especially when it comes to care for the elderly. Even though you have everything planned out as well as can be, an issue could still arise that might throw a big spanner in the work. You need to know how you will all cope in the event of such as an emergency. As well as this, you also need to have a plan ready that can help you if a parent were to fall seriously ill. Of course, you can never predict some emergencies, but it’s always best to have some kind of idea as to what you will do whenever you are in a predicament.

Hopefully, all of these tips in this post can help you make your parents’ future a better place to be!

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