There is always one member in an all-girl friend group who’s always put together. She’s the one everybody goes to for advice because she seems like she knows what she is doing all the time. She is strong, she is responsible, and she is an achiever. She knows what she wants, and she works hard for it.
If you get the same compliments as these descriptions, chances are, you are a strong independent woman. Don’t believe it? Read on to see what it’s like to be one.
1. You Have Big Goals and You Put Them First
You have big dreams. That might be to travel the world, be a successful CEO of a sustainable clothing company, or own a stake at a high-end property developer. Or maybe you dream of inspiring other people, living a simple life, or being an astronaut. Whatever that dream is, you are working hard to achieve it.
And if you don’t have the means right now, you are working hard and finding ways to get as close to your dreams as possible. If you can’t afford to travel, then you look for internship opportunities abroad. You get to earn while you also get to live your dream. Or you study hard to get a scholarship in a university abroad.
Your goals are not just some motivational piece you remind yourself every day of. You have the burning desire to achieve them. And you align your actions towards the fulfillment of these things.
2. You Know Your Worth
It’s not easy to achieve a level of self-love where you accept everything about yourself. But part of being a strong woman is accepting that you cannot change some aspects of yourself, which is okay.
You don’t attach your self-worth to things that change. You don’t think you are worthy of love because you are beautiful. Beauty fades in time, and you know that full well.
You don’t work hard to achieve big things to get other people’s approval. You know that your worth is much more than the trophies, the titles, and the empty congratulatory remarks.
Instead, you work on being kind. You exert effort so that you leave a good impact on other people. You fight for things that will make the world a better place to live in.
Leaving situations where you are not valued and where there is no growth is also your strong suit.
3. You Sustain Yourself
You are a strong, independent woman because you don’t depend on other people for your happiness. Of course, you understand that no man is an island. All relationships contribute to self-development and growth.
But, you know the importance of being there for yourself. You don’t need to be in a relationship to feel whole. You know how to take care of yourself. You make yourself a coffee, go on night drives, or read a quality book to make yourself feel better.
You don’t need anyone to go with you. The whole decision is yours. You reward yourself for your hard work.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t value your friends, family, or your love interest. But, you know that outside of these relationships, you are whole. They add color and fun to your life, but you don’t feel sad being by yourself at the end of the day.
4. You Constantly Work to Make Yourself Better
Of course, you understand that you have flaws. You are not perfect, you make mistakes, and at times you hurt other people. But there is strength in accepting that you need to change everything that you can to grow. Or so that you will become a better student, daughter, lover, and friend.
As a result, you are forgiving and kind. There is always a wrong side to people, and you don’t judge others because of this. You have your fair share of embarrassing deeds in the past that you won’t ever do again. You lend others the kind of forgiveness that you gave yourself. After all, everyone is a work in progress.
It is a continuing journey to be at peace with the things that take time to change. What matters is that you are moving in the right direction no matter how slow.
If you identify with all the characteristics you’ve just read, there is a big chance that you are a strong and independent girl. However, you have to be careful of the weight of other people’s expectations of you to be strong and independent all the time. Even the strongest ones crumble; even the most independent ones need the comfort of home. There is no shame in that.
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