Nobody walks down the aisle imagining anything other than love, happiness and a beautiful future. Not one person thinks that this won’t work; they think that marriage is it and the end of dating and any need to find another person to love. And then seven years goes by and things become…itchy. Well, for some people they do. The 7-year itch is a coined term that psychologists deemed the time in a marriage where there is a slump. One or both parties get itchy feet and feel the need to explore outside the marriage. The relationship is likely to decline at this point if it’s going to, and the timing leads one or both people to disconnect.
Of course, not every single married couple gets to year 7 and throws in the towel. Plenty of married couples remain happy and married for even more years. However, if you are nervous about this and you feel the need to seek advice from people like Susie Tuckwell to know what to do next, you should get to know the signs your marriage won’t make it past year 7. With this in mind, here are seven signs to look for!
- You’re no longer curious about each other. One of the things that pulls a couple together is their desire to learn more about each other. Curiosity is so important to the communication between a couple and without it, you’re not going to learn new things anymore.
- You’re keeping secrets and it’s becoming difficult. When you are married, there shouldn’t be any secrets beyond birthday gifts and surprise parties. Transparency is important and you have to stop keeping secrets from each other.
- You choose not to spend meaningful time together. Love isn’t enough – and it’s something you’ll quickly learn. You need to spend time together for your relationship to be meaningful and if you’re not, that’s a clear sign you’re growing apart.
- You’re starting to take each other for granted. Those little gestures that you had before, when you were enjoying together seem to disappear, and bam – you’re not enjoying each other anymore.
- Money hasn’t been a topic of conversation for a while and you have stopped communicating about it. You should be discussing financial goals together, and if you’re not, you could be on the decline.
- When you are trapped in a cycle of criticizing each other, you can forget how to be nice to each other. You shouldn’t be drowning in criticism, and instead of criticizing each other, you should be discussing and talking together. If you can’t get out of this cycle you may find you’re on the slippery slope to ending the marriage.
- You no longer have any fight. You have to fight together. Marriages are work and they take two people working together to get through each phase of life. Life is full of surprises and you can ensure that you get through them all together when you both agree to fight together for your love to last.
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